Teach children "Self-Control"

Teach them “ Self-control “

Self-control separates us from our ancient ancestors and the rest of the animal kingdom, thanks to our large pre frontal cortices. Rather than responding to immediate impulses, we can plan, we can evaluate alternative actions, and we can refrain from doing things we'll regret. We can also take advantage of these innately human abilities by developing wisdom and willpower.

Self-control is the ability to control one's emotions, behavior, and desires in the face of external demands in order to function in society. Self-control is essential in behavior to achieve goals and to avoid impulses and/or emotions that could prove to be negative. Self -control can affect everything we do from talking with a classmate to taking a test.

Self-control involves: 1.      Control of impulse 2.     Control of emotions 3.     Control of movements

1. Impulse control The ability to think or stop before acting With the skill we can imagine the consequence of their behavior. Without this control we interrupt a lot speak too much or speak out of turn. ·         Bullying ·         Rush through assignments ·         Follow rules one day not the next 2. Emotional control The ability to manage feeling by thinking about the goals Helps us keep going even when upsetting or unexpected things happen. ·         Without this we become easily frustrated and quick to give up. ·         We are unable to tolerate correction and criticism ·         Find it difficult and calm down. ·         We have trouble to postpone enjoyment 3. Movement control The ability to control body movement It regulates our physical actions and responses in an appropriate way. ·         Without this skill we are overactive or restless ·         We have trouble in quiet and seated activities ·         We have difficulties staying in line till our turn comes. ·         Disrupts games and conversations

Need of self – control for our students Impulse control is at the root of self-control. As a result, when children lack impulse control they often have trouble regulating their emotions and controlling their actions. This can lead to all types of difficult behaviors including bullying. When you teach your child impulse control, he’s much more likely to be successful with school, in his relationships and in managing his behavior. Kids with impulse control can successfully stand in line, wait for their turn while playing a game and can think before they act. They also tend to have more success with their peers as impulse control helps kids resist peer pressure and solve problems successfully. Impulse control can help increase a child’s success in school and throughout life. Self-control is twice as important as intelligence when it comes to academic achievement, Children who can control their impulses are better able to think about their answers before writing them down and have better critical thinking skills to solve problems when they aren’t immediately certain of the answers. They can also tolerate more frustration while devoting time to thinking of the answers. They can even wait with a quiet raised hand rather than blurting out answers.

Role of teachers and parents in developing self -control

v Set yourself as Model for Appropriate Behavior Kids are always watching what you do. They see how you handle stress. They watch how you treat other people. They look at how you deal with your feelings.

v Establish Household Rules Kids look for adults to learn about appropriate and acceptable behaviors and having a written list of rules helps make this clear to children. A list of household rules can also help kids understand how rules differ in different environments. For example, it may be acceptable to yell at the playground but in the library voices should be in a whisper.

v Teach Kids about Feelings When kids develop an understanding of the difference between feelings and behaviors, it can help them control their impulses. A child who understands that it is okay to feel mad but not okay to hit, can see that he has choices about how to deal with his feelings without reacting impulsively. A child who understands that it is okay to feel mad but not okay to hit, can see that he has choices about how to deal with his feelings without reacting.

v Practice Delayed Gratification

Delayed gratification, or deferred gratification, is the ability to resist the temptation for an immediate reward and wait for a later reward. Generally, delayed gratification is associated with resisting a smaller but more immediate reward in order to receive a larger or more enduring reward later

v Teach them  life skills Listening   skills. Problem solving skills Anger management skills Decision making skills Empathy Interpersonal relationship skill

v Encourage them for more Physical Activity When kids are physically active they have a better chance at managing their impulses. When they’re a bundle of energy, they are more likely to act without thinking. Encourage moderate amounts of physical exercise and activity to keep them physically and mentally healthy.

v Play Impulse Control Games Play games that provide a young child with a fun way to practice impulse control. Games such as “Red Light Green Light”.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

                                                                                                                                        Pratima Nayak